No, You Belong

No, You Belong

I led a youth ministry retreat once with the theme “I Belong.” and we gave out black crewneck sweatshirts with “I Belong.” on the front as merch. I wanted teenagers, while they were getting dressed, to have an option of wearing something that was a declarative...
Getting Curious

Getting Curious

One of the most undervalued cognitive skills is curiosity. As we enter adulthood, our desire to perform competency often translates to a muting of all of our natural curiosity in order to make it seem like we are as settled in as those around us.  I had a summer...
People Like Us

People Like Us

We were in a Ministry Incubators staff meeting the other day, and a new teammate was introducing herself. When Mark DeVries asked her why she joined the team, she said, “All my career, people have always said I had too many wild ideas, that I was always trying to do...
Unscripted

Unscripted

As a toddler parent, I see tons of TikTok-style content that tells parents exactly how they should speak to their children; what phrases “you should never use” and what “one weird trick” will lead to an emotionally regulated child. I get the appeal. As my toddler...
Clarity is Kindess

Clarity is Kindess

We’ve talked on this blog before about the importance of being crystal clear on who you are as a community before embarking on the work of innovation. About how, when a community doesn’t have a clear sense of mission and values, change is difficult, because, without a...
What Your Coach Wants You to Know

What Your Coach Wants You to Know

A dear friend of mine in ministry (we’ll call him Brian) was recently assigned a coach by his supervisors. Their relationship is beginning with an on-site visit, and in the lead-up to the visit, his mounting unease about having an outsider in his space led to a lot of...